After a breakup, you’re usually left with a lot of unanswered questions. As much as I don’t want to admit this, breakups have always caused me to question my self-worth. I would constantly ask myself, “Why wasn’t I good enough for him? Was there something I could have done? Did I not give him what he needed? Was I not sexy enough..sweet enough? What does she have that I don’t?”
Although this is a super unhealthy way of thinking, it can be really difficult when a relationship ends to not feel like it has something to do with you.
A guy that I was with once always pointed out my flaws. All of the things I saw as my positive traits, he saw as negative ones. He hated how sweet I was and how sensitive I was. For the longest time I believed all of the things he had told me about myself, and that caused me to blame myself for things not working out.
I know now, though, the importance of letting these thoughts go. I wasted so much time dwelling on what went wrong and what I did wrong. Now I know that if someone has to question their love for me for even a second, it’s time to let them go. Love is not something you should ever settle for and I deserve someone who is absolutely sure about the feelings they have for me. I want someone who chooses me and keeps choosing me everyday.
Never change yourself for someone else. Ever. Be unapologetically yourself and if someone doesn’t appreciate exactly who you are, walk away.
For me, the best thing I could have done for myself was to realize that it was never me. As much as they made me feel like it was, it was never my fault and I was never the problem.
I’ve learned how important it is to be strong enough to walk away from anyone that doesn’t appreciate me, because I’m worth it and I deserve the best (and so do you)!